Wanted: Chosen One
Last March on the 20th, for some of you who kept up-to-date with this half-abandoned website (do forgive me for that, Senior year had been c-r-a-z-y), I wrote out a list on the perfect husband that I wish to marry someday in the
near future. Come 2017, with heart even more dead set on getting married, I realized the ridiculousness of the list that I’ve written before and decided to give it a retouch. Please understand that this list is written simply to humor my cravings and this doesn’t determine anything. At all.
Without further adieu, the list:
- Religious Beliefs: A practicing, critical, curious, tolerant, and passionate Muslim.
- In four words: Leader, responsible, honest, adventurous.
- Relationship type: Believe in monogamy 100%
- Sunday nights are for: Trying new couple activities (Scrapbook, cooking, rock climbing, yoga, ticking out bucket lists)
- Foreign or domestic: Foreign is very much preferable for their open-mind, though a domestic is also acceptable. Open-mind being the key.
- Ideal age: No older than 25.
- Perfect date: Adventure to new places and learn new experiences.
- Body type: Anything, as long as healthy. Disability and scars also don’t scare me, I’m willing to learn.
- Expert or Generalist: Expert in what he does.
- Beach house or country house: I wrote country house last year. Now that I’ve gotten more appreciative of the sunlight, whichever’s fine.
- Mommy issues: No, absolutely not. He must love his mother.
- Dietary restriction: Doesn’t eat anything that’s forbidden in Islam.
- Wants kids? Yes, and I hope to marry someone who’s willing to adopt. I’ve come to learn that there are far too many children who deserve a home. I also wish for my first child to be the adopted child so he can feel more included into the family (This topic is up for discussion).
- Does he cook? He has to be willing to try and cook with me on weekends.
- Drinking habits? No alcohol.
- Cats or Dogs? Cats, though only because religious reasons. If he wants to appreciate pugs or huskies or golden retrievers, that is completely acceptable.
- Inked? As long as he’s asked for His forgiveness, I’ll bat a blind eye on past mistakes and regrets.
- Sarcastic? The funnier the better, as long as it’s humorous and positive
- Who’s prettier? He can be prettier.
- He shouldn’t be: A pessimist cynic.
- Confidence from 1-10? 11
- Chivalry is…? A must!
- Man? Woman? Either? Man. Still man.
- Likes your job? Yes, he must support my job and dream to the fullest.
- Has he ever cheated? As long as he’s a changed man, it’s tolerable.
- His turns on: Confidence and big heart.
- Takes charge or takes orders? I’d love for him to take charge, though I wish for him to treat me on the basis of mutual respect and equity.
- Furry or smooth? Facial hair, yes. Chest hair, no. Legs or arms, sure.
- Times for work? As long as he’s free on weekends and makes time for me.
- No shorter than: Me
- Selfies: Not so much on his own, but taking lots are nice if with family or friends.
- Hair style: Either short or long, messy mid-length hair is a meh. If he can rock a man bun, yes.
- Multi-lingual: Yes, especially English. Definitely English.
- Views: Open-minded.
- Credits? Good, he must crave knowledge and be well educated. It shows that he is serious and understands about wanting to make a good life for his own by working hard to achieve good things
- Night owl or early bird? Doesn’t matter as long as he wakes me up for Fajr and sleeps after Isha.
- What’s his style? Clean, acceptable for social events, and wear clothes that is actually his size.
- Hobbies? Anything is fine, but writing, reading, or outdoor activity is much more preferable (running, hiking, et cetera). If he likes playing with trinkets or a handy man, that’s a bonus for me.
- First weekend away? Outbond, definitely.
- Degree? Let’s work together towards PhD before 30.
- Clean or Messy? Clean and organized.
- Politics? Gets the hang of it.
- He should…? Be open-minded. This is the n-th time I’ve written this. He should be open-minded without straying his views on the rules that’s written in Islam.
- Sport? He sweats regularly and is willing to go for a run on holidays or weekends.
- Art? Can appreciate art, creativity, and musical theater.
- Job? Anything that he loves doing instead of being forced into doing. Also, anything that pay the bills.
- Family matters? I’d love to marry someone who has a large family that I can get to know, but I’m not very picky on the matter.
- No-no #1? Not religious.
- No-no #2? Restricting me from my education, job, and right.
- No-no #3? A pessimist who doesn’t have a dream. Dreaming big is attractive, and him working to make his dream come true is even more attractive.
I try to broaden my views on the matter of husband. Allah will not meet me a husband if He deems I’m not ready, and I’m trying at the moment. I know the chances of a 17 year old nobody who just came out of highschool with no clear knowledge on her future meeting her soulmate is very slim, but I really do wish to form a Halal relationship with someone He’s chosen for me.
At the end of the day, only Istikharah prayer will help me decided who’s right and who’s not, so the list won’t matter much. Right now I’m just hoping to get through the National Exam, Prom, Graduation Day, and then get accepted to university with a decent scholarship so I can be financially independent in case I do get married.
I’ll tell you how it turns out later on.
Here’s to he who’s name’s been written in my fate